by Pauline Grouette
Why do we always wait until something drastic happens before we decide to make changes in our life, like a divorce or loss of a loved one? There will never be a perfect time to start living the life you deserve. I decided not to wait for opportunities to come to me, but to initiate the actions to start living a fulfilled life! Through challenges, joy and tears, I share them with you.
Hold Yourself Accountable
I was living a life that I wasn’t fully sure how I got into. I fell into a cycle of continuous bad relationships and felt unfulfilled in my dental career, moving from office to office in search of a healthier work environment. I was stuck in victim mode. I built a thick wall of anger around me, and refused to look in the mirror and see the role I played in my situations. Everyone around me saw how weak this persona was except me. I thought no one could understand and my excuses were abundant. I started to take responsibility for what I could control in these situations. I committed to taking steps to create a better life for myself by joining a fitness group, I read self-help books to explore why I felt the need to move from office to office, and went from one bad relationship to another. Once I held myself accountable, I gained true strength.
Evolve your mindset!
I was exhausted trying to prove myself and not being taken seriously! I felt like I was being taken advantage of by everyone in my world. What I didn’t admit to myself was that in chasing approval from others, I was getting in my own way. I realised the only opinion of myself that mattered was my own. I chose to let go of the fear that controlled me and I surrendered to the Universe. With the Universe as my guide, my life started to change as early as the next day. I met my current husband who is my best friend and soulmate. By shifting my mindset from scarcity to abundance, love and trust, I became happy with the life I chose.
Take actions towards creating the person YOU want to be!
I became a Certified Life Coach. I started to set and reinforce boundaries with family, friends and co-workers. I processed forgiveness and sent love and peace to those who I felt wronged me. With every action the heaviness started to lift. Paternity was something that I never knew and after fifty years, through geneticists, I discovered who I am. I felt a wholeness that I had never experienced. This increased my self-confidence and I became determined to create the life I have always wanted. I started to see fear as an ally and no longer be the leader. Life was not as difficult as I made it out to be. I started to feel heard and respected in my new life. Stepping out of my comfort zone became part of my integrity. Decide what you really want and take action, even the scary ones, and you will see how abundance surrounds you.
Believing and seeing how the Universe had my back, I learned to trust in myself. I continued to destroy the old stories and I committed to living a life of integrity and love. I am now creating the story I enjoy being a part of. Making different decisions towards what I once considered unattainable, is my new reality. Anyone can do it! You only need to decide.
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