Julianne Williams
If you still think that mentally strong women are born, you may be right, but I believe you have what it takes to develop strength in your thoughts and habits. Strong women are made. It takes effort, and you are well-equipped to make the choices that will get you there. It’s all about knowing your strengths and flaws, setting intentions to get better every day, and protecting yourself when others try to attack you. You can’t become a strong woman by reading a book or attending a workshop – you have to act like one.
Here are some habits of strong women you should consider adopting:
She doesn’t compare herself to other women
Measuring what she has in life in terms of people, wealth, and appearance only drains her strength. A strong woman doesn’t really care about what others are doing – good or bad. She doesn’t see other women as their competition; she only competes with the person she was yesterday.
She doesn’t like to see others failing in order to feel like she is winning. In fact, she rejoices for young girls and women when they achieve their goals because it strengthens her belief that she’ll also get what she is trying to achieve.
She refuses to see herself as a victim. No matter how hard things go for them, she doesn’t see herself as a victim. It’s hard to ditch the victim mentality, especially when women all over the world have been oppressed through history and still don’t always get an equal place as men in society; repeating it again and again will only perpetuate this belief. Although everyone is a victim to something in life, the label ‘victim’ only promotes powerlessness. That’s why she wants to be seen as a survivor, which is a true symbol of empowerment.
She is honest with herself. She doesn’t seek comfort in ignoring the harsh phases of life. While sometimes it is necessary to shut off the memory, a woman who does this constantly lives in a fake paradise. A strong and independent woman isn’t afraid to accept both good and bad experiences in her life. In fact, she likes to be brutally honest about herself as it motivates her
to improve. She doesn’t blame herself. Self-blaming is a kind of emotional abuse that ultimately pushes her into a torturous cycle. She stops blaming herself for things she did and things she couldn’t do. Being strong means she accepts the actions for which she holds responsibility, but it doesn’t mean that she sees herself at fault for everything that happened to her. Beautiful people suffer from horrible things. This is life. God says rain falls on the just and the unjust. Don’t try to find the ‘absolute or hidden’ meaning behind tragedies of the past.
She doesn’t exclusively depend on others. One of the most important factors that differentiate a strong woman from others is that she doesn’t rely on others to save her. She knows she possesses all the power to rise above the stormy phases of life. She doesn’t wait for others to come and pick her up when things don’t go well for her. She is a self-sufficient person and understands that throwing a pity party isn’t going to remove all the problems in her life. There are times to ask for help. With that said, her power lies in the ability to act in her own best interest.
She doesn’t let society determine her worth. While it can be tempting to allow others to bring you down with rejection and criticism, a strong woman knows that other people don’t determine her self-worth. Even if she is surrounded with disapproval or harsh comments from loved ones, that doesn’t make her worthless. A mentally strong woman isn’t bothered by rude comments. The struggles of life have made her resilient. She leans on her faith that each one of us was born with a purpose, all divinely planned. She develops coping skills that help her bounce back when life gets tough.
She prepares for the worst. Sure, having a positive mindset that sees the good even in challenging times can be great, but preparation makes life easier. She capitalizes on what comes next in life. Instead of getting stuck because of obstacles, she creates an action plan and deals with them confidently as they appear. She sees obstacles as challenges and sees what opportunity she has in them. www.juliannewilliams.com • www.conizo.com/shop FB: BraveEnoughCommunity • LinkedIn: julianne-williams-1aa76917 youtube.com/channel/UCWwGThoaK6ldE1U-mOz1NhQ/videos
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