From Breakdown to Breakthrough
- Aug 8, 2025
- 3 min read
By Blanka Molnar, Family Constellation Practitioner and Conscious Parenting Coach
Nobody teaches you what to do when your life no longer fits you, but you’re still living in it. Nobody gives you a map or guide of where to go or what to do. For me, it wasn’t just one moment. It was a slow, aching nudge that, with time, became louder and louder, and more and more painful. A restless feeling that I needed to change. I needed to go.
My “midlife crisis” began at the age of 26, when I left my family, friends, corporate life, and country behind to move to California and become an au pair. I switched from the boardroom to changing diapers. It was a pivotal and life-changing moment, but most of the people in my life did not understand me (and they didn’t support my decision either). In California, I embarked on my spiritual and healing journey, and I never looked back. California was the perfect supportive environment as I was desperately seeking the answer to the question, “Who am I?”
I naively thought that moving across continents would allow me to leave my “package” and my past behind. However, life does not always unfold as you expected. That’s the beauty of it. My “package,” and I am not talking about my carry-on luggage, came with me across the ocean. Unopened, unresolved, and heavier than ever.
On a particularly stressful morning spent with the kids, I realized how much “stuff” we are passing on to our children, and that moment cracked me open and broke me down. I wanted to be a caring, loving, and patient au pair, but at that moment, I was on autopilot as impatience was bubbling up in me.
That was the moment when I had to face the hard truth that my reactions and behavior were not just about the two kids in front of me. They were echoes of how I was raised, shaped by the emotional imprints and patterns that I learned from my parents and caretakers, and those I subconsciously carried with me. That was one of the most significant turning points in my life when I decided to transform my rock bottom into something blooming.
That moment and the healing journey it triggered became the foundation of my current company, Awarenest, where I help individuals heal from multigenerational traumas, raise their awareness, and learn to change how they parent.
That breakdown became my breakthrough. I realized that if I wanted to show up differently for the children in my care and one day, for my own, I had to do the inner work. I delved deeply into modalities such as Family Constellation® therapy, nervous system regulation, and conscious parenting. I confronted painful truths, subconscious patterns, grieved the version of myself that didn’t feel enough, and slowly began rebuilding from a place of truth instead of trauma.
What does it mean to be unstoppable now? It’s not about pushing through or pretending to have it all together. For me, being unstoppable now means being willing to pause, listen, feel, heal, reflect, and rise again with integrity, from my core. It’s about appreciating and respecting my inner voice, even when it just whispers. Especially then.
To the version of me who almost gave up:
I see you and I hear you. You weren’t lost or weak. You were exhausted carrying what was never yours to deal with. But you kept going and you never gave up. I am so proud of you as you planted the seeds for a life you hadn’t even dared to imagine yet.
Now, I live that life. And I help others remember it’s never too late to come home to themselves.
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