Healing is the New Hustle: Mindset, Growth, and Modern Transformation

By Myisha L. Wallace  

What mindset shift changed the course of your life or career?

Forgiveness. Whether it was forgiving myself for only knowing what I knew at the time of the betrayal and releasing myself of that shame and guilt, or forgiving the very offender that at one time, I wanted to feel the hurt they gave. I mocked those who suggested such forgiveness until I had an encounter with not only what it took to forgive, but actually taking the step to do so. The audacity I had not only to forgive the offender, but myself was freeing and gave me the power that I never knew I had. This act of obedience (because I could have never done this on my own) opened up a world of empathy and kindness. You know, those things we learned in kindergarten but forgot so soon. This act also encouraged a shedding of what used to be into who I was called to be. I realized that this mindset shift of humbleness was not for me, solely, but everything attached to me. I began to envision how my children vicariously consumed this experience and, just wishful thinking, but what a world would look like with this same mindset. I would suggest this mindset shift to the business owner who cringes at the overwhelming obstacles of being an entrepreneur, forgive. I would suggest this approach to the women healing from relationship betrayal, forgive.

How do you help others heal while staying grounded yourself?

I live by the motto, “A healthy you is what creates healthy relationships.” This idea encourages me to selfishly hold space for myself to reflect, experience self-awareness, and heal, therefore allowing me to selflessly help others who are still struggling to find their way out of the pit that I was once in. While in the pit, I was surrounded by so much uncertainty and negativity, everything felt unstable making it hard to climb my way out of. As a matter of fact, at times it felt like the very person who pushed me in and tried to pull me out with rhythms of “sorry, it wont happen again”, was the very person with the shovel throwing dirt into the pit. No wonder I felt confused. As I became self-aware, I realized that what once tried to become my grave, became my foundation to claim and cover so no other soul would fall into that pit of a grave, and it became my foundation to stand on in authority to do good works. As I reflect, I know now that hurt people hurt people. As I healed, I realized that healed people heal people. I help people by knowing my truth. I now have power over that pain. Not only the power to feel when I chose to climb down into the pit with my hurting sister, but the power to command that it flees at my resistance. The biggest lesson I learned was the biggest feeling I felt in that pit, loneliness. If I can help it, I will never leave another woman alone in this pain. This is why I do the work that I do.

In what ways do you believe healing work is reshaping modern entrepreneurship?

Modern entrepreneurship is being reshaped through the depths of storytelling. A product or service is not just a product or service anymore, it’s an open book of someone's lived- journey. Don’t believe me, just ask a female entrepreneur her why. If her product or service does not sell you, I am sure her story will. The best part is she is still narrating this story that maybe she did not begin herself, but is now writing, editing, and illustrating herself.

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