Healing Is the New Hustle: Mindset, Growth, and Modern Transformation

Aug 18, 2025
3 min read

By Rebecca Webster, Connection Counselling

I grew up feeling invisible. The youngest in a large family, my world shifted dramatically at age three when my parents divorced. My father and siblings left, and I was uprooted from my neighborhood, my friends, and everything familiar. I felt helpless, left behind, and completely out of control. That deep sense of abandonment and sadness followed me for years. My father eventually stopped visiting, my mother was either working or dating, and my siblings lived far away. I was alone emotionally, and I internalized a belief that I was powerless.

When children are deprived of the love and care they need, they lack emotional maturity to recognize that the problem lies with their parents. Instead, they internalize the absence of affection as a reflection of their own worth. They come to believe that if they are not receiving love and attention, there must be something inherently wrong with them. As a result, they often develop low self-esteem and struggle with self-acceptance and self-love. I was no different.

As I got older, I carried that victim mindset into adulthood. I blamed people and circumstances for everything that went wrong. I had no concept of self-responsibility, only that life happened to me. I started a video production company that barely stayed afloat. I worked around the clock but couldn’t seem to grow the business, which put me in a constant state of survival mode. Naturally, I blamed the industry, the economy, and even traffic. I’d be late for meetings, stuck on the highway, screaming at the cars around me, never once stopping to realize I had the power to leave earlier.

In 2010 everything changed when my mother’s mental health started to decline. I felt overwhelmed and unequipped to help her physically or myself emotionally. When she passed away, I was consumed by grief and guilt. But that loss also sparked something deeper in me, the realization that I couldn’t go on living helpless and heartbroken. I knew I needed to change, not just my unfulfilling career, but my entire mindset.

In 2014, I closed my business and enrolled in school to become a psychotherapist. As part of the training, I had to begin therapy myself. That’s where I experienced the mindset shift that would change everything: I stopped blaming others and started taking full responsibility for how I responded to life.

Once I turned inward, everything started to change. I learned to regulate my emotions, set boundaries, forgive myself, trust my instincts, and most importantly, love myself. I no longer needed to play the powerless role of the victim. Instead, I could choose differently and allow for my greatest potential.

When I launched Connection Counselling, it felt completely different from my past experience as a business owner. It wasn’t chaotic or heavy, but completely aligned. I trusted myself to handle challenges and to connect with others for support. I felt as though I was no longer carrying the emotional burden of trying to fix others or be responsible for them. Because I had done the work, I was now able to hold space for my clients without becoming enmeshed.

As I look back, I understand how healing is reshaping modern entrepreneurs. People are realizing that mindset matters just as much as strategy. Many of the influencers I follow openly talk about therapy, nervous system regulation, and self-awareness alongside their business goals. There’s a real cultural shift happening. Healing has become a part of the conversation because there’s a growing appetite for it in society.

People are tired of burnout and hustle culture. They want to feel connected, not just productive. Influencers recognize this and are speaking to it because they know that audiences are craving something deeper. Mental health is no longer taboo; it’s a powerful foundation for personal and professional growth.

At Connection Counselling, I help my clients transform their lives by shifting their mindset, reclaiming their power, and reconnecting with their inner strength. And I stay grounded by walking the same path, continuing therapy, practicing self-care, and building an authentic community.

We even share free insights and tools for healing on our YouTube channel, where you can find real conversations about growth, emotions, and how to navigate life with more self-awareness. You can check it out at youtube.com/@connectioncounselling.

Healing is the new hustle because when we heal, we stop reacting and start creating.

We stop chasing and start choosing. We move from fear to alignment. That’s where real transformation begins.

Healing isn’t easy, but it’s the most powerful investment you can make in yourself, your relationships, and your future.

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