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I Wasn't Just Hurt; I Have PTSD": The Hidden Trauma of Broken Friendships

Dashana Jefferies

When friendships go sour, the emotional fallout can be profound. While much attention is given to romantic relationships or family ties, the impact of broken friendships is often overlooked. For some, the end of a close friendship doesn't just result in hurt feelings; it can lead to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). This hidden trauma deserves recognition and understanding.


The Emotional Depth of Friendships

Friendships form a fundamental part of our social and emotional lives. Close friends are our confidants, support systems, and companions through life's ups and downs. The bond formed with a close friend can be as strong and significant as that with a romantic partner or family member. When such a bond breaks, especially under traumatic or abusive circumstances, the emotional impact can be devastating.


Understanding PTSD from Friendships

PTSD from a friendship may arise after experiencing betrayal, manipulation, or other forms of emotional abuse. A former friend can experience PTSD in this context by having intrusive thoughts about the friendship, experiencing severe anxiety, and avoiding places or activities associated with the friend. Just like with other forms of PTSD, these symptoms are not merely the result of sadness or disappointment but are indicative of deep psychological trauma. The Unique Pain of Friendship Breakups

The pain of a broken friendship can be uniquely intense for several reasons:


Trust Betrayal: A close friend's betrayal can shatter one's trust in others. The person who was once a source of comfort and support becomes a source of pain and confusion.


Isolation: Losing a close friend can lead to isolation, especially if mutual friends are involved. The social circle may shrink, leaving the individual feeling lonely and unsupported.

Self-Doubt: The end of a friendship, especially if it involves manipulation or emotional abuse, can lead to intense self-doubt and questioning one's judgment and self-worth.


The Unspoken Nature of the Trauma

One of the challenges in dealing with PTSD from friendships is the lack of societal recognition. While breakups in romantic relationships are widely discussed and acknowledged as traumatic, the end of a friendship is often minimized or dismissed. This lack of acknowledgment can make it harder for individuals to seek help or even recognize the severity of their trauma.


The Path to Healing

Healing from PTSD caused by a broken friendship involves several key steps:


  • Acknowledgment: The first step toward healing is acknowledging that the friendship ended traumatically and that its emotional impact was valid.


  • Seeking Support: Professional therapy can be invaluable. Therapists can help individuals process their emotions, develop coping strategies, and work through their trauma. Support groups, either in person or online, can also provide a sense of community and understanding.


  • Self-Care: Engaging in self-care activities can promote mental and emotional well-being. These include hobbies, exercise, mindfulness practices, and time with supportive friends and family.


  • Rebuilding Trust: Building trust in oneself and others is integral to healing. This may involve setting healthy boundaries, nurturing new relationships, and practicing self-compassion.

The trauma of a broken friendship can be just as real and damaging as that of any other significant relationship. By acknowledging that "I wasn't just hurt; I have PTSD," individuals can begin the journey toward healing. Recognizing these experiences' profound emotional impact and providing the necessary support and resources for those affected is essential. Through understanding and empathy, we can help those suffering from this hidden trauma to find a path to recovery and resilience. CONNECT www.apassport2breathe.com

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