The Power of Confidence Lies in Your Voice
- Nov 10, 2025
- 3 min read
By Hannah Darby GMBPsP SMACCPH
Confidence isn’t something we find… It’s something we remember.
For years, I searched for confidence in all the wrong places: achievements, relationships, and other people’s approval. Only later did I realise that true confidence is an inside job. It lives within us, waiting for permission to be heard.
Our voice is the key. It’s the bridge between our inner world and the outer one. It’s the way we share our truth, our emotions, and our power.
But what happens when that voice is taken from you?
When trauma, bullying, or fear makes you believe that silence is safer than speaking your truth?
That was my story for many years.
Losing and Reclaiming My Voice
Throughout my life, I became an easy target. Bullied at school and criticised in adulthood, I learned to stay quiet to avoid conflict. Over time, I internalised those voices until the loudest bully became the one inside my own head.
“If you weren’t so useless…”
“You’re too much…”
“You’re not good enough…”
These weren’t just passing thoughts; they became the soundtrack of my life. I smiled on the outside while silently drowning on the inside. The weight of those words built an invisible cage around my confidence.
Our confidence is intrinsically linked to our voice. When that inner voice turns cruel, self-doubt and self-belief start to fade. Reclaiming it requires courage, compassion, and practice.
Healing my voice meant going back to the moment it was silenced, back to the moments when others’ words made me doubt my worth, and learning to rewrite the story. I had to learn to speak to myself with kindness, to catch the negative thoughts before they spiralled, and to use new words that uplifted me instead of tearing me down.
The Healing Power of Words
The way we speak to ourselves matters more than we realise. Words have energy. They shape the way we see ourselves and the world around us.
When I began replacing harsh self-criticism with gentle awareness, everything started to shift. I began using simple “unhook phrases” like not right now or whoops to interrupt negative thought patterns. It might sound small, but speaking these words aloud stops that downward spiral in its tracks. It gives you a moment to breathe, a moment to choose a different story.
Every time we stop the inner critic and replace it with self-compassion, we reclaim another piece of our power.
Confidence isn’t about being loud or fearless. It’s about being authentic. It’s about speaking your truth with kindness and conviction, even when your voice trembles.
Rising Together
For so long, I believed that confidence was something others had and I lacked. Now I’ve learned that we all have it, it’s just buried under layers of fear, comparison, and conditioning.
It’s not just about finding your voice, it’s about helping others find theirs. Women often tear each other down out of insecurity, but imagine what we could achieve if we chose to lift one another instead.
Be the woman who helps other women rise!
That’s what my chapter in ‘UnleashHER Voice: Unlocking Confidence and Power in Every Woman's Story’ is all about. Rediscovering the power within your voice, breaking free from self-doubt, and learning to use your words as a force for healing, not harm.
Once you find your voice, you unlock your confidence. When you unlock your confidence, you unleash your power.
Your Voice is Waiting
Today, I use my voice not only to share my story but to guide others in rediscovering theirs. Through my healing practice, combining psychology, HeartHealing™, and Reiki, I help women transform self-criticism into self-compassion, silence into strength, and fear into freedom.
You deserve to be heard. You deserve to feel confident, capable, and courageous. It all begins with one small act: changing the way you speak to yourself.
Your inner voice should be your greatest ally, not your harshest critic, because your voice is your power, and your confidence lies within it. Now is your time to rise, to speak, and to shine.
Read “The Power of Confidence Lies in Your Voice” in ‘UnleashHER Voice: Unlocking Confidence and Power in Every Woman's Story,’ a collection of women’s real, raw, and empowering journeys of transformation. Available 25th November 2025 on Amazon.
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