From Pain to Power: The Moment I Finally Chose Me
- Aug 11, 2025
- 3 min read
By Lyndle Bryan
For a long time, I told myself I was happy. I had a business that helped others feel beautiful, I was raising beautiful children, and I was ticking all the boxes of what a “successful” life should look like. I was doing all the things. But deep down, I was silently breaking—not from one defining event, but from the slow erosion of my spirit over years of shrinking myself to stay in a life that didn’t truly reflect me.
I stayed in a marriage that felt safe on the surface, but internally, I knew it was dimming my light. I bent over backwards to keep the peace, softened my voice to avoid confrontation, and constantly shaped myself to fit into someone else’s world. I became so accommodating, so agreeable, that I eventually disappeared—even from myself.
What I didn’t realize at the time was that this pattern of playing small wasn’t just showing up in my relationship—it had seeped into every part of my life, including my business. I made decisions that avoided conflict. I played it safe. I avoided being “too much” out of fear that if I truly stepped into my power, it would make others uncomfortable—or worse, everything would fall apart.
And then, it did.
But what felt like a breakdown was actually a breakthrough.
The moment I chose me—my voice, my truth, my healing—was the moment everything began to shift. Leaving that relationship wasn’t easy. It was terrifying. But it was the most honest thing I’d ever done. For the first time, I stopped asking for permission to rise. I stopped fearing my own power. I created space for my spirit to expand—freely, without apology.
And in that space, something beautiful began to happen.
My business, Purely Polished, began to transform alongside me. What started as a beauty service evolved into something so much deeper—an offering rooted in energy, intention, and soul. I began creating sacred, healing experiences for women—spaces where beauty met breath, stillness, and deep reconnection. I wasn’t just helping women look polished on the outside—I was supporting them in coming home to themselves on the inside. The work became more than skin-deep. It became a spiritual offering, a calling, and a reflection of my own personal evolution.
As I began aligning with my truth, life began to meet me there. Opportunities flowed. My relationships deepened. My sense of self became clearer. I felt inspired, creative, and in flow. And most importantly, I finally felt like the highest version of myself, not a watered-down version trying to keep everyone else comfortable.
What I’ve learned is this: being unstoppable isn’t about force. It’s about alignment. It’s about choosing yourself, even when it’s uncomfortable. It’s about standing in your truth, even if it shakes the foundation of your life. It’s about honouring the woman you were always meant to be before the world told you to tone her down. True power isn’t loud—it’s rooted. It’s calm. It’s clear.
Today, I am grounded, vibrant, and full of love—not because life is perfect, but because I’m finally living in integrity with my soul. I’ve made peace with the messy middle. I’ve learned to trust my intuition. I’ve built a business that reflects my essence. And I’ve created a life that feels true. That feels like mine.
To the version of me who almost gave up: thank you for holding on. Thank you for finally choosing us. We were never too much. We were just waiting for the space to rise.
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