Winning My Way: Redefining Success with Clarity and Compassion
- 18 hours ago
- 3 min read
By Biana Lerman
For years, I thought success meant being the person who could do it all. I tried to be the one who worked harder, moved faster, and held everything together no matter what. I measured my worth by how much I could juggle, how many goals I could hit, and how little I seemed to need rest. On the surface, it looked like I was winning. But deep down, I was exhausted.
Then life stopped me in my tracks. When I lost my mom, everything I thought I knew about success suddenly didn’t matter. I couldn’t just push through anymore. I had to step back and rebuild myself before I could work again.
That season changed everything. It stripped away the noise and forced me to see what truly mattered.
During that time, I realized that growth isn’t about adding more. It’s about aligning with what feels true. I started asking myself questions I had never made time for before: What do I actually want? What kind of leader do I want to be? And what if success isn’t something I chase, but something I live in peacefully?
That shift in perspective eventually led to the creation of Your HubSpot Expert, the company I co-founded with my business partner, Mason Phillips. We wanted to help businesses simplify the systems that often create chaos and stress. So many leaders we work with are overwhelmed, trying to scale, lead, and stay sane all at once. Through helping them create structure and clarity, I began to notice a pattern. No matter how successful people were, many were quietly burning out. In them, I saw myself.
That realization opened a new path for me. I founded Your Growth Leader as a space to support founders and executives who want to grow without losing themselves in the process. It became about more than business. It became about balance, trust, and well-being.
I want to show that leadership can feel human, that teams can thrive in safety, and that success does not have to come at the expense of peace.
Today, I see “winning” differently. For me, it is not about bigger numbers or faster growth. It is about leading in a way that feels clear, calm, and honest. It is about building companies where people can breathe, where communication flows openly, and where leaders are not forced to sacrifice themselves to meet every demand.
When we start defining success on our own terms, everything changes. We stop chasing someone else’s version of achievement and start creating one that actually feels good to live.
If I could offer one piece of advice to women who want to “win” in their own way, it would be this: get clear on what peace means to you. Do not let someone else’s version of success become your blueprint. Take the time to notice what brings you energy, what drains it, and let your goals come from a place of alignment, not comparison.
Once you know what truly matters, you can build with clarity, intention, and trust in yourself.
These days, my definition of success is much simpler. It is waking up with purpose, leading with compassion, and creating space for myself, my team, and the people I serve. It is knowing that I can still grow, still dream big, and still honor the parts of life that make it meaningful.
That is what winning looks like to me now, and I would not trade it for anything.
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